Whether they say so or not, new moms don’t just crave alone time; they need alone time. We’ve got five simple ways dads can help new moms carve out a little me time so they can feel more like themselves again.
How do I love thee? Let me count the ways—and by that, we mean simple ways dads can show their love by giving new moms a break. A new mom’s goal is to help keep baby happy and healthy, so much so that new moms tend to baby’s every need, and generally—carelessly—toss her own needs aside. During those early days and weeks, when the demands of a newborn baby are pretty much at a constant, not tending to her needs can lead to exhaustion and poor health.
It’s so important for dads to step in and get new moms to step aside—just for a little while. I lucked out with a wonderful husband who was happy to change diapers and take baby for a walk so I could have some alone time. That being said, I had to be vocal about my need for me time (or I would still be waiting for it).
Experts at BabyCenter state that it’s important for new moms to nap each day (even a ten-minute nap will help), try to fit in some light daily exercise, and find time to connect with other new moms. Sleep deprivation can lead to health issues, but light exercise can help boost a new mom’s mood and a community of other new moms can be a source of comfort and support.
So listen up dads, in case your baby’s mama isn’t speaking up. Whether she says so or not, she needs time to herself. Time to take a shower. Time to take a nap. Time to sip a hot cup of freshly brewed coffee or steeped tea. Nothing fancy, she just needs time to herself to recharge and stay healthy. Give the new mom in your life the opportunity to rest and recharge so that she can be an even better mom to your new baby. Here are five simple ways you can do just that.
Giving Mom a break: how new dads can help out
- Give her time to enjoy a leisurely shower or soothing bath
- Be her barista
- Care for baby while she goes out
- Wear the chef’s hat for a day
- Tackle household chores
Give her time to enjoy a leisurely shower or soothing bath
Once baby has been fed, let mom know that you are taking baby out so she can take a timeout for a leisurely shower or a soothing bath. Bonus points if you run her a bath with lavender-scented Epsom salts!
Meanwhile, dad, you and baby can take a hike—literally. Secure baby in the stroller and start walking. The fresh air and exercise will do you both some good. The motion during a stroll can often gently rock baby to sleep so dad can enjoy some quiet time, too.
This Joovy stroller comes with a cushioned multi-position reclining seat and bassinet mode that’s designed for on-the-go naps. The reversible handle flips so you can stroll eye-to-eye with baby, while a large canopy with UPF 50 coverage helps protect your little one from exposure to the sun.
Be her barista
Hamilton Beach’s 12-cup digital coffee maker is programmable and includes an automatic pause and serve feature so you can grab her first cup of coffee while the rest of the pot brews. It’s designed with a two-hour shutoff, swing-out brew basket with release button and a non-stick warmer plate.
Care for baby while she goes out
Sometimes new moms have a hard time getting back out into the world beyond the front door. Help make this transition easier on her by keeping baby under your watchful eye as she ventures out. Suggest she use her timeout to attend a yoga class or meet up with other new moms. You could also suggest she take a timeout to pamper herself with a haircut, manicure, pedicure—or all three.
You could keep baby busy by going to the park. Be sure to pack what you need for your outing in your diaper bag, including extra diapers and wipes, a baby hat and baby sunscreen, now that the sunnier weather is here. Don’t feel like venturing that far from home? You can enjoy time with baby on your balcony or in your backyard. Just be sure to find a shady spot.
This backpack diaper bag from Baby Boom has nine pockets, including a side insulated baby bottle pocket, a laptop pocket and a smartphone pocket. Diaper changes on-the-go can be easier thanks to the side wipes dispenser pocket and change pad.
Wear the chef’s hat for a day
Tell her you’re cooking dinner and that the kitchen is off limits. Not sure what to cook? Try your hand at creating one of our easy healthy meals. Make a list of the ingredients you’ll need and take baby with you when you head out to pick up groceries. Use a baby carrier so you can be hands-free as you tour the aisles. Don’t forget to clean up the kitchen when you’re done cooking!
This baby carrier from Infantino Llc is designed for newborns, but can also be tailored to fit older babies so you can keep using it for a long time. It helps provide ergonomic support through baby’s growing stages. Padded shoulder straps and a supportive waist belt help to distribute weight for more comfortable wearing evenly.
Tackle household chores
When baby goes for a nap, tell her to go for a nap, too. While they are both out for the count, do a load of laundry, empty the dishwasher and give the place a clean sweep. Tip: Swiffer really helps clear the dust away!
Make your place feel like new by giving your space a good dusting. Swiffer dusters help trap and lock dust and allergens. Use them to dust electronics, furniture, knick-knacks, blinds, ceiling fans and even your car interior.
Raising a baby is such a special time in both your lives. Caring for a newborn can range from exhilarating to downright exhausting for a new mom because she is on duty 24/7. Help the new mom in your life feel her best by giving her the time she needs to recharge and keep her health in check.